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Saturday, January 3, 2015

Goal Setting For Slackers

Don't quit! No matter how impractical your dreams are! D.M. Kilgore, The Realm, Deterimination, Goal Setting For Slackers
Determination.

"Resolutions are just goals
with a side of determination."

~LaDonna D. Cole

 

Wise words from a wise author!

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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January 3, 2015
Saturday Shenanigans

 

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Well, it's an improvement from yesterday.
Morning Writer Cam

 I don't want to make anyone jealous, but I totally woke up with 80's hair.  

 

Strange. I watched Saturday Night Fever before falling asleep


Waking up with the Bee Gees on my mental radio made this rainy, cold, blah Saturday a little more bearable. I almost did the Hustle while pouring my morning tea. 


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Almost...

My back just isn't ready for disco yet.


Saturdays need a theme. I've decided to go with "Shenanigans". I like the idea of incorporating a little silly, high-spirited mischief into my weekend. Things are getting way too routine around here for my Gypsy heart. Routine is great for work, but not so much for play. At least, that's my take on it.

Anyhoo, before we play, let's talk business. I want to talk about goals a little bit today. I love what LaDonna had to say about goals and resolutions. Don't you?

My goal-a-day plan is working out nicely so far.

Writing my goals down each day has been a really good reminder of what I hope to accomplish this year. I'm a notorious slacker though, so having just one new goal each day makes it all seem a little less overwhelming. 

The most important aspect of my goal setting has been to see each one as a building block. Each one ends with the question "how?" which leads to the next goal.

But... there's a little problem with my goals.


They aren't

Are your goals SMART? D.M. Kilgore, The Realm, Dear Bloody Diary, Goal Setting For Slackers, SMART goals.
Are Your Goals SMART?
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Did you know there's a SMART way to set goals? 

 

It's true. Having SMART goals is critical to reaching them successfully! My induction into the National Society of Leadership and Success taught me how to set goals the SMART way.

 

A S.M.A.R.T. goal is defined as one that is:

 
Are your goals SMART? D.M. Kilgore, The Realm, Dear Bloody Diary, Goal Setting For Slackers, SMART goals.
Are Your Goals SMART?
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Specific: Avoid generalities! Your goal should have specific details so you know what you’re achieving.

Measurable: Make sure you have solid criteria for establishing your progress toward your goal.

Achievable: It doesn’t have to be simple or easy, but it should be within the realm of reality.

Relevant: Your goal must be something that is rewarding, meaningful, and worthwhile.

Time-Bound: Having specific dates for beginning and finishing goals keeps you on track.
 
 

Common Mistakes To Avoid

 
 
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Uh Oh!
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Hmm... 
 
My goals (so far) this year are:
 
  1. Stop letting my current reality determine the size of my dreams.
    (HOW?)
  2. Start organizing my life around my writing, instead of my writing around my life.
    (HOW?)
  3. Manage my time.
    (HOW?)
See the problem? I do. They aren't specific. They are good general goals, but they aren't SMART goals. Goals that aren't SMART have potential, but that's about it.
 
If I hope to accomplish anything this year, I'll need SMART goals. After I make each of my goals specific, measurable, attainable, relevant, and time-bound, I can move on to the next step.

The Plan

 

The Plan of Action! D.M. Kilgore, The Realm, Dear Bloody Diary, Goal Setting For Slackers, SMART goals.
SMART Goals = A smart action plan!
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I'll be using the following worksheet to help me revise my goals:


Goal:

_____________________________________________________________


1.  Specific. What will the goal accomplish? How and why will it be accomplished? 
2. Measurable. How will you measure whether or not the goal has been reached? 
3. Achievable. Is it possible? Have others done it successfully? Do you have the necessary knowledge, skills, abilities, and resources to accomplish the goal? Will meeting the goal challenge you without defeating you? 
4. Relevant. What is the reason, purpose, or benefit of accomplishing the goal? What is the result of the goal? 
5. Time-bound. What is the established completion date and does that completion date create a practical sense of urgency?

Revised Goal: 


 _____________________________________________________________


YOU CAN DO IT! D.M. Kilgore, The Realm, Dear Bloody Diary, Goal Setting For Slackers, SMART goals.
You Can Do It!

Bam. Just like that, I have my "to do" list for the day.

 

But Wait...

Before I Get To Work


Saturday Shenanigans: After I finish my work today, I'm going to drive over to the pawn shop and sell three of my DVDs. I'm going to find a total stranger in the shop and ask them to pick me out a movie, any movie they think I'll like just by looking at me. No matter what it is, I'm going to buy it and watch it tonight. I can't wait to see what happens. *Giggle-Giggle-Snort*
 
 

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You'll find a daily dose of me here, every dag-um day.


I hope you enjoyed your visit and learned how to
create, plan, and achieve your own SMART goals!

Tune in tomorrow to see how mine turned out.


 

 

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Friday, January 2, 2015

Blood Samples & Head Trauma? It's All The Rage At The Realm!

In 2015 I'm going to subject invite you to partake of the horrors delights of what's inside my head... daily. Every.Dag-um.Day. Admit it, you've always secretly wondered what goes on in here, haven't you?  It will be raw... honest... entertaining... enlightening... insanity.
Dear Bloody Diary...

A New Year?

Let's redecorate The Realm!

A little blood spatter here...
Some violent outbursts over there...
A daily dose of D.M. right here...

Wait...


WHAT?

That's right. In 2015 I'm going to subject invite you to partake of the horrors delights of what's inside my head... daily. Every.Dag-um.Day. Admit it, you've always secretly wondered what goes on in here, haven't you?

It will be raw... honest... entertaining... enlightening... insanity.

Are you in?


What do you mean you need to know what you're in for?

Okay, fine. I'll still do a little daily theme (Musing Monday, Tipsy Tuesday, etc) but there will be a Dear Bloody Diary style dose of D.M. (that's me!) each day to get us started. Fair enough? There's nothing to fear but fear itself... right?

What have you got to lose? 


Without further ado, here is the inaugural entry:




It will be raw... honest... entertaining... enlightening... insanity.

January 2, 2015
Funtastic Friday

 

What? I woke up like this! Don't hate me because I'm beautiful. Morning Writer Cam- The Ugly Truth. D.M. Kilgore
Isn't she lovely?
Morning Writer Cam = The Ugly Truth

 I woke up like this.


Don't hate me because I'm beautiful. 

All you need is a raging case of the Never Ending Zombie Virus with a side of Sciatica, and you too can wake up in this delightful state of natural beauty! The mood lighting was provided by the gorgeous overcast sky. Nothing says "wake up" like a sky full of gloomy-doomy gray clouds! Ah, I couldn't wait to get out of bed.



Before we get on with the funtastic, let's talk about New Year's Resolutions for just a moment. I didn't make any. Why? Well, simply put, "resolution" is just another word for "failure" in my personal vocabulary. I never make any resolution stick past March. I don't expect that to change now that I'm in my early forties. (I know! I know! From my glorious picture you thought I was only 20, right?)

No, 2015 is not the year I'll finally make and keep a resolution. Instead, this year it's all 'bout that bass...

2015- is all 'bout those goals, 'bout those goals, no troubles...
*ear worm alert*



Wait. No. That's not right.
Shew! That was close.
Almost got stuck in your head didn't it?

Goals. 

This year is all about the goals!

*Sings: you know I'm all 'bout those goals, 'bout those goals, no troubles...*


Ahem. Sorry. Moving on...

I'm doing a "Goal A Day Keeps Discouragement Away" instead of resolutions.

My new year started with an overwhelming urge to ditch the dream of writing and get a "real" job. No income in almost a year, savings is gone, bills piling up... writing and dreams are a bit impractical when you have a family to feed.

Thankfully, my worries and sciatica kept me up later than waiting on the ball to drop. I passed the time by watching "Magic Beyond Words: The J. K. Rowling Story" on Amazon Prime (because our Netflix and Hulu were suspended when I couldn't pay the bill- true story).

I watched, and I cried, and I whooped with joy when it was over. I learned something invaluable.

I can't "quit" no matter how impractical my dream is. 

The flame is still burning somewhere deep inside. I might never see a measure of Rowling's success, and that's okay, but if she can hit rock bottom and keep her dream of being a writer alive... why can't I? 

Her dream was bigger than her reality. In the end her reality became bigger than her dreams. 

Challenge accepted. I can rebuild my dreams from here!



That's my very first goal for 2015. 


Stop letting my current reality determine the size of my dreams!

#1: Stop letting my current reality determine the size of my dreams! 


I went to bed last night with a lot of "how?" swirling in my head. How can I make sure that I never again let my current circumstances belittle my dreams? 

*TA-DA* I woke up to a cloudy day this morning afternoon, but a light-bulb was burning brightly (it burns!) over my traumatized brain as I (finally) crawled from my bed. Goal number two.


Start organizing my life around my writing, instead of my writing around my life!

#2: Start organizing my life around my writing,
instead of my writing around my life!


Not a bad start to a new year of goals, if I do say so myself, and I do.

Did you make goals too?
Or are you a freak-of-nature that
actually makes and keeps resolutions?


Alright, alright. Calm yourselves. I know you're chomping at the bit to see what's going on this Funtastic Friday. I didn't forget. Geesh!


FUNTASTIC FRIDAY:



Funtastic Friday's Harry Potter Mega-Thon & Feast
Magical Movie Marathon!
In honor of the hallelujah choir moment that followed my watching J. K. Rowling's life story...

We are having a Harry Potter marathon tonight! We'll be dusting off our dvd collection and having a "feast" and a slumber party in the living room. (Air mattresses are awesome, don't ya know?)




Funtastic Friday's Magical Themed Menu is going to be a potluck of potions! D.M. Kilgore, Funtastic Friday
Mmmm Yummy!
What's on the menu? Well, our "feast" is going to be a scavenger's delight of leftovers- potluck style. Leftover ham becomes "Hogwarts Hot Ham & Cheese" when tossed on some leftover buns or rolls. A side of leftover veggie-tray goodies becomes a "Herbology Salad". And Christmas punch becomes "Poly-juice Potion" with just a drop of food coloring. It wouldn't be much of a feast if not followed by some yummy treats-- I'm baking a green bundt cake (pistachio pudding added to pound cake mix) and topping it with a lovely cherry glaze.



Daisy is ready for the slumber party portion of Funtastic Friday!
Ahhh. Relax it's the weekend!

Daisy's already claimed her spot and gotten a jump start on the relaxation!



NOW IT'S YOUR TURN!


Do you have big Friday Night plans?

 

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<---- When the writer cam isn't rolling,
I'm magically transformed into a glamorous lady with fabulously curled hair and expertly applied make-up. 

*magic*

You'll find a daily dose of me here, well, daily.
 

 

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Thursday, January 1, 2015

Don't Let the Door Hit Ya 2014! A(nother) New Year!

 

Yay! It's 2015!



Let's face it, 2014 had its moments...

                                               

 

I became a MUSER!


Read Write Muse, readwritemuse.com, The Musers, For the reader, the writer, and the muser in all of us! RWM
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 I attended the RE:union


D.M. Kilgore - what happens at RE:union stays at RE:union

D.M. Kilgore, Ted Dekker, what happens at RE:union...
D.M. Kilgore, The Tombstone, and Ted Dekker, what happens at RE:union... 

 

And all that that implies...

LaDonna D. Cole, D.M. Kilgore, Colette St.Onge Pederen, Authors, Musers, Blue Monkeys, RE:Union



 I became a Gram-ma!

D.M. Kilgore, photography by Donna Michelle, Baby Blues, Grandson


D.M. Kilgore, homeschool, article, Home Education Magazine, Nov/Dec 2014

I had another article accepted for publication in Home Education Magazine...

D.M. Kilgore, homeschool, article, Home Education Magazine, Nov/Dec 2014D.M. Kilgore, homeschool, article, Home Education Magazine, Nov/Dec 2014





 

I discovered "Supernatural"...

Color me fangirl, D.M. Kilgore discovers the Winchesters.Color me fangirl, D.M. Kilgore discovers the Winchesters.



I watched as my daughter-in-love and my dad gave cancer the big goodbye!


CANCER FREE IN 2014! D.M. Kilgore's family gets a double blessing!
CANCER FREE IN 2014! D.M. Kilgore's family gets a double blessing!
Dad is CANCER FREE!
D.M. Kilgore, THANK GOODNESS NO PIRATES HERE!

 

 

 My not-so-little-anymore little one
finally went as something other
than a pirate for Halloween!

D.M. Kilgore, Baby's first Turkey Day!

 

 

 

And my littlest little man celebrated
his first Turkey Day!






 

 

 

The hubs and I celebrated 20 years of marriage!

D.M. Kilgore, 20 years of marriage and still no jail time. Bwahahaa!D.M. Kilgore, 20 years of marriage and still no jail time. Bwahahaa!


We adopted a new baby, who is too smart for his own good!


D.M. Kilgore's newly adopted feathered friend Loki, who is smarter than she is!D.M. Kilgore's newly adopted feathered friend Loki, who is smarter than she is!

I became an officially published Fiction writer!


D.M. Kilgore, Amazon Author page, Officially Published Fiction writer!

Through The Portal, Anthology, Read Write Muse, Cancer Charity, D.M. Kilgore, The Writers of Read Write MuseFire Inside by D.M. Kilgore, Through The Portal, Anthology, Read Write Muse, Cancer Charity, D.M. Kilgore, The Writers of Read Write Muse



Horror Anthology, Midnight's Wraith, D.M. Kilgore, Kicking King!




D.M. Kilgore, Through The Portal, In Creeps The Night, The Realm, Book Signing, Officially Published Fiction Writer!


And I launched a new site for my alter-ego's fantasy series!


AUBREN JAMES, Pen Name, D.M. Kilgore, Fantasy Series, New website!

 

 

I learned how to make extra money online - for real!

Show me the money! Make money now, for real! D.M. Kilgore, The Realm, Inbox Dollars! http://www.inboxdollars.com/?r=ref18349915Show me the money! Make money now, for real! D.M. Kilgore, The Realm, CashCrate http://www.cashcrate.com/5644741
                        

$$$


 

And my parents celebrated their Golden Anniversary!

D.M. Kilgore, a long line of love, Golden Anniversary!



I was inducted into NSLS and NSCS honor societies...


D.M. Kilgore, honor society!D.M. Kilgore, honor society!
College Life, 4.0 baby! D.M. Kilgore, All A's, Bam!

 And Finished the school year with straight A's and a 4.0 GPA



D.M. Kilgore, Aubren James, NaNoWriMo Winner 2014


I finished NaNoWriMo 2014, despite all possible odds.




D.M. Kilgore, grand-baby, first Christmas, Santa visit, Love him love him!

 And we were all together on Christmas Day
to enjoy baby's first and our first cancer-free holiday!



Looking back, it was a pretty great year!


Except for...

October 26 - December 31
And The Never-Ending-Virus-From-Hell

D.M. Kilgore, never-ending-virus-from-hell, acute bronchitis, viral syndrome, pretty sure it's the zombie virus!D.M. Kilgore, never-ending-virus-from-hell, acute bronchitis, viral syndrome, pretty sure it's the zombie virus!D.M. Kilgore, never-ending-virus-from-hell, acute bronchitis, viral syndrome, pretty sure it's the zombie virus!D.M. Kilgore, never-ending-virus-from-hell, acute bronchitis, viral syndrome, pretty sure it's the zombie virus!D.M. Kilgore, never-ending-virus-from-hell, acute bronchitis, viral syndrome, pretty sure it's the zombie virus!D.M. Kilgore, never-ending-virus-from-hell, acute bronchitis, viral syndrome, pretty sure it's the zombie virus!

 I am still certain I've had the Zombie Virus!


D.M. Kilgore, never-ending-virus-from-hell, acute bronchitis, viral syndrome, pretty sure it's the zombie virus!

Since 2014 tried to kill me on the way out,
I say good riddance and let's bring on the New Year!


 

As 2015 rolls in...

I make no resolutions.

I  plan to do one thing this year:

Stop letting my current reality
determine the size of my dreams.

 

Bam!

Let's do this.